April 5, 2014

Sleeps like a baby!!!

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March 27, 2014

On the penalties you pay for believing in women

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Very powerful post


Onthe first day of my first obstetrics rotation as a medical student, Igot to attend a birth. I was assigned to shadow one of the staff obstetricians. We waltzed in unannounced to the room of alabouringwoman, who was pushing, feebly, ineffectively, with her feet in stirrups, legs encased in drapes.The doctorturned to me and rolling his eyes said, “At this rate, we could be here all day. Nurse, get me a pair of forceps.” And then, forwhat seemed to beno reason at all, other than impatience, he pulled the baby out. It was awful and I remember feeling terrible for everyone….the mother and her baby, the nurse who had to “obey” and for myself for having to bear witness to this thing.

What did I do with those feelings? Did I report this behaviour to the proper authorities? No, I certainly did not. It was clear to me that this…

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March 25, 2014

Tuesday 25th March

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After over a month of illness – myself with tonsillitis, then kidney infection then sinusitis – and Sadbh and David getting sick in between as well, It was nice today to feel better and to connect in with both the children and good friends. 

I had purposely planned little as I felt I needed to just hang with Sadbh and Odhran, and hang we did. 


Myself and Odhran started the day watching BubbleGuppies on Netflix. I like it and he LOVES it at the moment. 

Then up and we had breakfast and I watched Sadbh play games on my laptop – PBSKids and LaLaLoopsyLand.

Then I suggested a game of doctors. Sadbh got a Dr McStuffins playset from her godmother for her birthday, so we found that and set up the animals that would visit and need care. I had wanted to make a plastercast to show them how and also to let them draw on it when it was dry. Tracey had some plaster paris and had brought it down so we were ready to go. 


I saw a litany of animals and many of them had broken bones. Sadbh’s imagination is in full flow at the minute. She suggested under the bed for the X-Ray machine and also using the Mr Men books as pretend X Rays for the injured. Odhran decided he wanted to be a patient as well. At first he just had 2 broken legs, but then later he decided ALL of his body was broken and needed a big huge bandage!!!! 


It was lovely hearing Sadbh come up with all these invented illnesses for her toys – such as the flower suffering from ‘floweritis’ (not being able to smell flowers) and needed to be sprayed with a rainbow perfume (a tower of lego bricks making up the colours of the rainbow). We had a lovely morning. 


After lunch we headed over to Leighs – we got there a bit early as Sadbh wanted to go with Leigh and pick up Otterlie and Louis from school. Lucy arrived in Leighs a bit later and the kids had a great play – doing dress up and playing with musical instruments as well. I got to have a lovely chat with great friends, and played a bit with Odhran who loved the castle and pirate ship that was there. 

Home for the evening and before bed I will read to Sadbh. We are currently reading Enid Blytons: The Five Find Outers – the Mystery of the Disappearing Cat. 


A lovely calm and chilled day of homeschooling reminding me why I love this life so much with our kids 

March 3, 2014

Struggling to Conceive

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I wrote in my blog post here how ambivalent I was about becoming a parent when pregnant for the first time.  It was never a huge desire of mine to have children (I considered myself more of a dog person!). I was worried throughout my first pregnancy how I would adapt to motherhood. I was scared I would not like or that I would not be able to love a child enough or that I would not have a clue what to actually do. Before I had my daughter I had never even held a newborn baby, so how would I know how to mother one? What did being a mother even mean? I had the usual fears as well, that I would imagine many women have, regarding how parenthood would change my life and how I would manage and deal with those changes.

Thankfully I love being a mother (most days anyway!). It came as a huge surprise to me (and to many other friends and family), how much I love it. I took to it from the minute Sadbh was born. Parenting can be intense and tough and like nothing I have ever imagined and there are days I think – what did I do!!! But after Sadbh was born, for the first time ever, I knew why so many people adored babies. I loved how soft my baby was, how her head smelt, the warmth of her cuddled beside me as we mastered breastfeeding.  I could not believe how much love I felt for her and how much that love grew and grew as I settled into my new role. This was despite sleepless nights and complete exhaustion (the term ‘sleeps like a baby’ makes me laugh in hysterics now when I think back to those days!!!). After a few months parenting Sadbh I was longing for another baby. I wanted to experience pregnancy, birth and motherhood again, but this time with the knowledge of what it meant to be a mother.

It had taken us over a year to conceive first time round, so I wasn’t expecting to get pregnant immediately. I was also breastfeeding my daughter on demand so it took abut 18 months for my periods to return (and I didn’t mind that at all). I was hoping that I would get pregnant quicker this time since my body perhaps knew what to do now.  However it didn’t happen like that, and in the end it  took me over 2 years to get pregnant for the second time. Two years of charting, trying to figure out my cycle to see when I was ovulating, trying to take my temperature (but never really getting to do.  For it to be accurate you were supposed to have been asleep for 3 consecutive hours beforehand and since I had a child who fed regularly throughout the night and woke up constantly I could never get this window of uninterrupted sleep). I used the charting sheets in Taking Charge of Your Fertility to record my cycle and I would recommend this book for any woman who is menstruating, whether or not they are trying to conceive. As Toni Weschler argues: ‘…Fertility Awareness is a comprehensive means of allowing women to finally take control of all aspects of their cycles, from natural birth control and pregnancy achievement to PMS, premenopause, and basic gynecological health.’ (p. 419, TCOYF).

I went for acupuncture on a regular basis, as well as taking homeopathy and herbs to help my body in any way I could. I read Zita West’s book ‘Guide to Getting Pregnant’ as well as listened to her preconception CD on a regular basis.

Two years is probably a drop in the ocean for many couples on the trying to conceive track – but it seemed like an eternity to me. When I was trying to conceive for the first time I didn’t really feel under pressure. My fear of motherhood tempered this. As I was so unsure if I wanted a child, myself and my husband were very much ready to let fate take its course and see if we got pregnant or not.

This time round, however, my ambivalence was gone. I wanted another child with every pore of my being. My heart ached when a friend would tell me they were expecting – and this happened a lot as most of my friends that I had met through my first child were now having their second. Don’t get me wrong, I was happy for them as well, but there was also a touch of sadness that I was still not pregnant. I would then feel guilty for feeling sad as I knew I was lucky enough to at least have a child. I was frustrated that for me I could just not get pregnant while some women I knew seemed to be able to conceive so easily.

I had a number of friends that were struggling to concieve their first. But I had never had that longing trying for my first child, or that despair I would now feel month after month as my period arrived and my hope disappeared.  Time was ticking for me, I was now creeping into my late 30s and feeling slightly desperate. I really wanted the chance to be a mother again. To experience pregnancy this time knowing what it meant to be a mother, to understand what it meant to grow a baby inside me. It was consuming me – every month hoping and waiting, then dealing with the disappointment. I was worried it would never happen, that I was too late.

I thought perhaps breastfeeding my daughter may have been affecting my fertility. A lot of the advice I received from health care professionals and complementary therapists was that I should stop breastfeeding. However my daughter was very attached to breastfeeding. She really needed it – she was a Velcro baby and toddler and also highly sensitive, so breastfeeding soothed and calmed her and I was reluctant to stop in case it wasn’t the reason I could not get pregnant and then I was cutting short our breastfeeding relationship for nothing.

Eventually in early September 2009 I went to a fantastic homeopath in Midleton who gave me a remedy. A few days after the remedy Sadbh stopped night feeding. Since she had been a newborn baby she had never slept through the night. We had gone away on holidays with my Mam and my parents in law to holiday cottages in Waterford. Up to this point Sadbh had never gone to sleep without breastfeeding. Myself and David had gone to the cinema (I still remember the film – 500 Days of Summer, it was brilliant), and when we got back Sadbh was asleep. She had fallen asleep with my Mam. I couldn’t believe it. The next evening my mother in law got her to sleep. Both nights she slept through. I was completely shocked and afraid to believe this might be it. My 3 and half year old might be night weaned. And it had been easy! But it was. From that date on she fell asleep without breastfeeding and stayed asleep for the night. We continued to co-sleep with her as we had done from her birth, but we all finally slept. It was heaven. Even better – a few weeks later I got a big fat positive. I was finally pregnant.

Big Fat Positive

Big Fat Positive

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Maybe it was a coincidence. And I have no evidence. But but but, it seems like SUCH a coincidence, that when my daughter night weaned, I got pregnant. What do you think? I know breastfeeding at night does not necessarily affect most women’s ability to concieve (most of the friends mentioned above who had gotton pregnant were feeding at night when it happened), but I perhaps was one of those women who were affected.

I was over the moon to be pregnant. I was so excited that our frustrating journey of trying to conceive was over and I was sooooo thrilled I would not have to chart anymore. Of course, that wasn’t the end of it…but more of that in another post for another day!!!

February 23, 2013

Getting Started

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Those that know me will know that I have talked of doing a blog for a long time now. But I’ve put it off, and off, and off. Why? Fear – of not being good enough, of putting myself out there, of nasty comments, of not having anything interesting to say, all have all held me back. I’m a huge fan of blogs. I follow many different types – from those of friends such as Dreaming Aloud and her newest one The Happy Womb , as well as  Mama Dynamite , and This is Pomp (I seem to know a lot if people with blogs is this the norm now or am I unusual I wonder?)

I love parenting blogs and there’s a whole host of Irish ones to choose from, The Mamas Hip, The Clothesline and Mind the Baby are favourites. My husband has started a blog too which (of course) i think is brilliant – Rothklee  Then there are lifestyle ones such as A Beautiful Mess  I also love birth blogs (of course) and follow and read quite a few – my favourite is probably TalkBirth.

So I am finally taking the plunge and starting my own. The blogs I follow and enjoy give me inspiration regularly, as well as make me ponder and rethink my ideas and challenge or validate my own opinions. I aspire to do the same with mine. I am sure it will be a learning process. I haven’t even figured out exactly what I want to write about. My passions are birth, parenting, home schooling, breast feeding and reading. I’m quite partial to Jeremy Renner and Ben Affleck  (brought my Mam to see Argo the other day) though perhaps not enough to do a blog post on them!!!!! We shall see I guess. Wish me luck on my journey. I have to start somewhere!!!!

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